A person cannot conjugate the verbs to love and to suffer at the same time. That the desire to love does not lead you to accept a type of relationship that causes you pain and bitterness. Codependency is a psycho-emotional dysfunction, where the person shows patterns of obsessive and compulsive behaviors and thoughts regarding the other person, the object of her obsession, usually her husband. The codependent person becomes entangled in a passionate relationship to which she becomes addicted. She is incapable of setting limits and remains trapped, even if the relationship is unsatisfactory. From her psychological dysfunctionality, the codependent person does not have the capacity to weigh her suffering against the love that she claims to feel for her husband. She believes that the situation is not so serious, that her husband is not mistreating her, or even goes so far as to justify it. We suffer more emotional dependency than men in our relationships because patriarchal culture has led us to believe that we are born with a special gift for unconditional and self-sacrificing love. From childhood, we are taught to give more importance to love and our partner than to our personal autonomy. That is why we, in general, are the most romantic: since we are teenagers we spend many hours imagining meeting with our better half, reading novels, talking to our friends about our romantic problems, watching romantic movies, writing letters and diaries, and living intense romances. This book will deal with the emotional codependency of a toxic husband as well as its potential drift towards a situation of gender violence and how to avoid it before it is too late. It will start with the generalized and couple codependence, the toxic person and the codependent woman, going through the reasons that lead to it, then it will give way to a plan of identification of the codependent person to move on to a plan of action where as a woman you will have to face your own destiny being you the one who decides and not others. Finally, we will go to a deeper phase about gender violence as well as psychological theories that support many patterns in common.